How do you talk to young children about aging? How do you explain changes in their grandparents and prepare them for visits to the nursing home or assisted care facility?
One great way is to read picture books and be open for their questions and comments. If they ask you something you don't know, tell them that you'll look for the answers together. If they ask you something that makes you feel uncomfortable, defer the question for a little while, gather your thoughts and information, and get back to them. Here are a couple picture books that deal well with memory loss.
A Young Man's Dance by Laurie Lazzaro Knowlton, paintings by Layne Johnson.
From the first line of the book, Grandma Ronnie isn't home anymore, we feel the pangs of loss and confusion that a boy experiences as his Grandma Ronnie is no longer in her own home, baking cookies, and doing the "cookie dance" with him as they wait for them to bake. He and his mom visit her in the nursing home where he is uncomfortable. He says, "I don't know why we bother coming here. She doesn't know who we are." His mom answers, "She's my mama. She raised me. I don't want her to feel forgotten."
We read on to learn of the relationship this boy had with his grandmother. That she taught him to dance and said, "A young man needs to know how to dance if he is going to get himself a girl." The dance of life is shown through their actions, as they learn how to live and love and remember for each other.
The illustrations are beautiful swirls of pastels and color. Some images are blurred, while others are clear, drawing our focus into eyes, smiles, feet, the moment.
This is a story that honors memory and the life someone lived, while giving us a picture of how to keep the spirit alive and live in the moment.
Another great choice is Wilfrid Gordon McDonald Patridge written by Mem Fox and Illustrated by Julie Vivas. This story is filled with whimsical words, illuminating illustrations, and creative connections. A young boy tries to help the folks in his neighborhood nursing home get their memory back. He does this by finding objects that have meaning to the indivuduals. This book engages young readers and opens their imagination to how they can bring joy and delight to older friends.
I have included the book links to Amazon.com for more information, or ask for these books at your local bookstore. Enjoy spending time together with the very old and the the very young. They know how to keep us connected and living in the moment.
What books did you enjoy reading as a youngster?
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